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In love with your instructor?
Posted by dancecraz
4/3/2002  12:18:00 PM
Stop daydreaming! Concentrate on your dance. If u can outperform your instructor, he or she will be impressed by u - your love then will take care of itself!
re: In Love with my instructor?
Posted by jhoushour
4/1/2002  12:19:00 PM
I told her and she let me down easy. I expected her response. Nothing has changed with our professional relationship. I respect her position and I won't bring up the subject again. Of course, I would not ask her to give up her career for me. I am glad I did bring it up. I am able to move on. Thanks for the feedback!
re: In Love with my instructor?
Posted by Keh Gough
2/18/2002  5:50:00 PM
I feel a mutual attraction and I know she is single. My question: Is it possible to date your instructor even discreetly? I am not sure how to proceed. I must know either way. It is killing me not knowing if there is any hope at all. She could very well be THE ONE.

After reading your original post again, I like to add this:

Yes, there is possibility to date your female instructor. At the studio I go, there was this beautiful female trainee instructor who now had since quited her job and going out with a male student of hers. This male student is not rich or particularily better looking than the most, but he is young (about your age). I guess they must have the mutual feeling for each other. So any hope? Sure. But as I wrote in the prior post, try to detect any subtle hints from her to see if she has the same feeling about you as you do about her.

re: In Love with my instructor?
Posted by jhoushour
2/18/2002  1:40:00 PM
WELL, I AM 29 AND SHE IS 27. SHE HAS BEEN TEACHING FOR 6+ YEARS WITH A CHAIN STUDIO. SHE TAKES DANCE VERY SERIOUSLY. SHE HAS NOT ACTUALLY SAID ANYTHING CONCRETE. IT IS HOW SHE INTERACTS WITH ME. I WENT ON VACATION FOR A BOUT A WEEK AND SHE TOLD ME 3 OR 4 TIMES HOW GLAD SHE WAS TO SEE ME. SHE WANTED TO KNOW IF I HAD MET ANYONE ON VACATION....IS THERE A WAY TO DELETE MY USER NAME? I CAN'T SEEM TO LOG ON FROM HERE! I HOPE SHE DOESN'T SEE THIS POST...I FEEL LIKE A SCHOOL BOY! NOT GOOD
re: In Love with my instructor?
Posted by jhoushour
2/18/2002  6:02:00 PM
Everything you have said I have thought of. I guess I was venting. Now to be the man and just tell her. Thanks again...
In Love With Instructor?
Posted by TangoGirl
2/21/2002  6:58:00 PM
If she's been teaching for 6 years she obviously takes her career very seriously. At chain studios it is common for student/teacher fraternization to be prohibited, and in some cases the instructors sign contracts that permit them to be fired and fined thousands of dollars for becoming romantically involved with a student (this is the case where I dance).

If you value her as a teacher, my recommendation is to keep quiet. Nothing can ever be the same after a revelation like that. Let her make the first move if there is one to be made -- and don't ask her to give up her career for you.

re: In Love with my instructor?
Posted by Keh Gough
2/18/2002  1:16:00 PM
Before I jump in to answer your questions, I need more information.

How old are you? Please don't get offended for this......I want to make a more senseful answer to your request.

How long has she been teaching ballroom dancing? Is she a veteran teacher? a trainee teacher? a part time teacher?

Is this a chain studio? Like Arthur Murray's?

Why make you think the attraction was mutual from both sides? Please tell us what did she say to you and what did she do to make you believe this is so?

Sincerely,

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