"Anonymous. You've got that wrong. Did I or did I not say that the ladies steps are not a mirror image of the man's and should not be treated as such. Which means exactly what it says."
If that was all you had said, we would not be having an argument.
Instead, when I had recommended that you can understand the difference between the variety of actions all described only as "TH" by considering what the other partner is doing during them, you had responded:
"it is never a good idea to go to the
other persons steps as a guide ever"
It is that statement which I take exception to, particularly in the way that it was posted in response to my recommendation that you consult the other person's part for additional guidance. And it is that statement which you yourself have seemed to contradict in later posts.