I am a pro male and am curious about what happened after this. I have had students, young and old "fall for me" and yes, it made it much easier to teach lessons to them, also to have them take trips with me. Those ones tend to listen better and do as I ask, so they are more easy to teach, no stress since they hang on every word and want our approval, what teacher doesn't want this? This is how you ladies will know, many pro teachers restrict or limit what subjects and information we give to clients, even if we are speaking more casually/relaxed, and spend more time, its only to get to know you better so that we can give you a better experience for your money, flirting is natural, you will see us do it with all ages and shapes, its important to our business to make ladies feel good, but of course it is more fun if you are young and talented. If other clients know the same info (where we are from, how we got here, some foods, places of travel, taste in music, or perhaps even shops we like) its only what we opt to disclose. Most of us won't talk about our loved ones using names, our parents,won't disclose places we like to frequent, or even our neighborhood or talk about past relationships unless we are using it in an anecdote (ie. I once dated this girl... Blah blah, so now I'll never wear old spice again!!!) usually the rule is simple, you don't make your bed where you eat.

I am a pro male and am curious about what happened after this. I have had students, young and old "fall for me" and yes, it made it much easier to teach lessons to them, also to have them take trips with me. Those ones tend to listen better and do as I ask, so they are more easy to teach, no stress since they hang on every word and want our approval, what teacher doesn't want this? This is how you ladies will know, many pro teachers restrict or limit what subjects and information we give to clients, even if we are speaking more casually/relaxed, and spend more time, its only to get to know you better so that we can give you a better experience for your money, flirting is natural, you will see us do it with all ages and shapes, its important to our business to make ladies feel good, but of course it is more fun if you are young and talented. If other clients know the same info (where we are from, how we got here, some foods, places of travel, taste in music, or perhaps even shops we like) its only what we opt to disclose. Most of us won't talk about our loved ones using names, our parents,won't disclose places we like to frequent, or even our neighborhood or talk about past relationships unless we are using it in an anecdote (ie. I once dated this girl... Blah blah, so now I'll never wear old spice again!!!) usually the rule is simple, you don't make your bed where you eat.

I also think VenusRose's question is very important. If someone would reply in a new chain as not to derail this one, but both I would follow avidly as someone who is trying to get into dance and thinking of one day trying pro.

Thanks for all of the info!

I started a new thread about this topic and called it "the emotional side of dance." I'm looking forward to getting your feedback!

Nice! But I wouldn't ask him out. Be patient and let him take that first step.

It would be so hilarious, therapeutic, informative and healthy for the both sides of dancing community to create awareness of all the cliche lines and behaviors that instructors with bad practices feed their students (at first, I thought they were just clumsy attempts to be polite). I do not know what female instructors say or do, but from collected comments of male instructors I may start with: "..you don't know what effect you have on men.."; "..I have had hundreds of students, but never connected with anyone like this.."; "..you are the most exciting woman I have ever met.."; and the crown of them all - "..oh! what are you doing to me.." Would be so wonderful, if people share other lines.

The mere fact that you are unsure and are asking for assurance to go ahead should tell you to listen to your gut feel. Instinct is seldomm wrong, you are aware of the flirting (so difficult not to in this arena with such close contact and feel-good hormones being produced. If you are someone special to him, trust me he WILL make the move. Resist the urge, enjoy and treasure the dance and time with him it is something so special in its own space - dont spoil what you currently do have ... trust me i know what you are feeling.